Finding your tribe, building the village, making memories

Let me just start by saying I’m not a fan of the word “tribe”. It’s a bit like “journey” for me, and yes I am guilty of using that word too. But seriously, when you become a mum, finding a tribe that is the right fit for you is super duper important. 

This month is all about creating memories and cherishing moments.  We truly believe that the early years with your children are the ones where you need the most support – and it’s the years that it can be the hardest to find.  BUT it is the people that surround you and your little ones that help create the most beautiful memories.

I’m not blessed with millions of friends. I personally have like five really good friends, but they are my tribe and I value them all very much. I only wish we had more time to see each other.

I have days where I feel isolated and alone. I also have  times when I feel that no one understands what I am going through.

I think we all have these days. It’s normal to feel like that and it’s ok to feel like that. What makes these days easier is if you have someone you can call or text, or you know you’re going to catch up with someone later in the day or week. Or even better, you can contact someone for an impromptu get together.

But where do you find these like-minded, people? People who have the same parenting ideals as you and same moral fibre. How do you find your tribe? Robyna and I have put our heads together and between us we’ve come up with the following ways to meet other mums*.

Now for the tough love, at the end of the day, no one is going to hold your hand and do it for you. If you want to make some new friends you’re going to have to put yourself out there. Continue reading

Five super ace awesome things about being a FIFO wife

Over the last month I can safely say that I burnt myself out and ended up really sick. I also faced up to the fact that I can’t do ‘life’ on my own anymore and asked my husband to come home. It was a big, scary question to ask, but he said “yes” without even blinking. It’s a good feeling to know he’s coming home once he finds the right job.

I know what you’re all thinking – that’s not very funny Sarah…

DJ Lance 2

Well in an effort to turn my frown upside down, I thought I’d have a think about what makes FIFO life (or DIDO, BIBO, etc) super ace awesome fun! *said with a DJ Lance voice. Here is what I have come up with: Continue reading

Life After Kids – The Good Bits

Photo Credit - Robyna May

Before I had Master I, I swotted up on pregnancy and babyhood.  I read the inevitable (What to Expect when you are Expecting and Baby Love), the slightly hippy (Well Adjusted Babies by Dr Jennifer Barham-Floreani), the somewhat terrifying (Misconceptions by Naomi Wolf), the guilt-inducing (The Smart Love Parent by Pieper) and the hilarious (Up the Duff by Kaz Cooke).   In retrospect, I may have believed that becoming a parent was going to come with a final exam – a literal rather than figurative one.   What those books cumulatively gave me (aside from a complex) was the belief that:  I would never shower before noon, I would lose all sense of my self, the people in my life would lose respect for me, that I was completely unprepared for parenting and if it were possible, I should rethink the whole idea.  My reality was very different.   I wanted to share seven things in my life that are so much better for having children. Continue reading