Finding your tribe, building the village, making memories

Let me just start by saying I’m not a fan of the word “tribe”. It’s a bit like “journey” for me, and yes I am guilty of using that word too. But seriously, when you become a mum, finding a tribe that is the right fit for you is super duper important. 

This month is all about creating memories and cherishing moments.  We truly believe that the early years with your children are the ones where you need the most support – and it’s the years that it can be the hardest to find.  BUT it is the people that surround you and your little ones that help create the most beautiful memories.

I’m not blessed with millions of friends. I personally have like five really good friends, but they are my tribe and I value them all very much. I only wish we had more time to see each other.

I have days where I feel isolated and alone. I also have  times when I feel that no one understands what I am going through.

I think we all have these days. It’s normal to feel like that and it’s ok to feel like that. What makes these days easier is if you have someone you can call or text, or you know you’re going to catch up with someone later in the day or week. Or even better, you can contact someone for an impromptu get together.

But where do you find these like-minded, people? People who have the same parenting ideals as you and same moral fibre. How do you find your tribe? Robyna and I have put our heads together and between us we’ve come up with the following ways to meet other mums*.

Now for the tough love, at the end of the day, no one is going to hold your hand and do it for you. If you want to make some new friends you’re going to have to put yourself out there. Continue reading

10 ways to protect images of our kids on the internet

10 Ways to protect images of your kids on the internet

As a part of this month’s challenge, we thought it would be irresponsible of us if we didn’t discuss the serious side of keeping our kids images safe on the internet.

Many of us snap and post without giving it a second thought. But what are the risks once we post that photo?

I had a discussion yesterday with Detective Senior Sergent Steve Loth from Taskforce Argos. Taskforce Argos is a specialised branch in the Queensland Police Service that is responsible for the investigation into online child exploitation and abuse. Detective Senior Sergent Loth was very generous with his time and provided some key messages we should all be thinking of when we manage our photos. A lot of it is common sense, but it is a good reminder all the same. Continue reading

Wake up call

This post is a once off and I am sharing this story with you because there is a slight chance it might help someone else.

I’m 33 and healthy. I think everyone who knows me would vouch that I am fit AND healthy actually. Fairly sleep deprived but we’re getting on top of that. I exercise most days, I like being active and I see a personal trainer once a week. I am heavily into nutrition and eat a healthy, balanced diet.

I also have a strong family history of early-onset heart disease. My father had a mild heart attack when he was 42 and by the time he was 49 had triple by-pass surgery. His father died at 54 on what was his seventh heart attack I believe the story goes. Heart disease is prevalent in his brothers as well. Continue reading

Valuing Motherhood

Baby and Calf - photo credit Robyna MayWhat do you do?   It’s an innocuous question.  An icebreaker. Something we say.

It’s not generally a request for a persons complete CV.  Yet, that’s how I answer that question.   I am at home at the moment on maternity leave but I will be back at work next year.  I did manage IT and knowledge for a law firm, but managing a big team with children wasn’t ideal so I have moved into more of a consultative role.

It’s only recently that I have started asking myself why I do this.  What am I really saying is: I am a mum, and that’s fun and all, but I am also an intelligent, successful person with a career.  I am actually quite smart and valuable.  And you aren’t going to see me that way if I only tell you the mum bit. Continue reading

Life After Kids – The Good Bits

Photo Credit - Robyna May

Before I had Master I, I swotted up on pregnancy and babyhood.  I read the inevitable (What to Expect when you are Expecting and Baby Love), the slightly hippy (Well Adjusted Babies by Dr Jennifer Barham-Floreani), the somewhat terrifying (Misconceptions by Naomi Wolf), the guilt-inducing (The Smart Love Parent by Pieper) and the hilarious (Up the Duff by Kaz Cooke).   In retrospect, I may have believed that becoming a parent was going to come with a final exam – a literal rather than figurative one.   What those books cumulatively gave me (aside from a complex) was the belief that:  I would never shower before noon, I would lose all sense of my self, the people in my life would lose respect for me, that I was completely unprepared for parenting and if it were possible, I should rethink the whole idea.  My reality was very different.   I wanted to share seven things in my life that are so much better for having children. Continue reading

September Holidays are finally here – with a free printable holiday schedule!

photo-15You can always tell the last week of school before holidays.

The kids are tired, the teachers are over it and the parents are spent.   The once eager Preps are arriving just after the first bell and their feet are dragging.  And poor Master I’s school bag has coped the worst of it. Continue reading